You look fine from the outside, but your nervous system is tired of holding it all.
A 13-day companion for caregivers, the strong one, and anyone carrying invisible load.
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This can also be a quiet, personal gift for someone you love.
We’ll create a beautifully personalised voucher, ready to send or print.
If you don’t know yet, further down the page, you’ll find the gentle details on how gifting works.
Instead of another course to complete, you (or your loved one) receive ONE TINY GIFT A DAY.
One to five minutes. Clear edges. No streaks. No pressure.
A small way of making space inside giving, so your care can include you too.
Approx. 52 USD / 39 GBP / 42 CHF / 72 CAD / 78 AUD.
One-time payment. No subscription. Lifetime access.
Holding Everything Together is for you if life often sounds like this inside:
You’re a mum carrying the invisible work of a home, children, and everyone’s emotional weather.
You’re a parent who is always “on”, planning, remembering, organising, soothing, thinking ahead.
You’re a partner who holds things together by noticing needs first and smoothing tension early.
You’re the adult child who manages the logistics and never quite clocks off.
You’re the team lead, or dependable colleague, often no one sees the load you’re carrying.
You’re the friend who becomes the safe place for others, even when you’re running thin.
If this feels familiar, Holding Everything Together is here to make space inside giving, so your care can include you too.
One tiny moment at a time.
Over these 13 days, this companion gently helps you to:
Feel the load in your body, and respond with softness rather than dismissal.
Name the invisible work, so it stops living only in your nervous system.
Build tiny pauses after helping, so you do not disappear inside giving.
Create a three-second edge before “yes”, so your capacity has a voice.
Make room for support, without needing to fall apart first.
Practise rest that can tolerate guilt, without letting guilt drive the day.
The aim is not to turn you into someone who stops caring.
The aim is to help your caring feel lighter, steadier, and more truly shared.
You won’t find a long curriculum or a list of tasks.
You receive one tiny gift a day.
You begin with the body, then name the invisible role you’ve been playing, and the quiet ledger you keep in your head.
You practise a post-help pause, build small “kettle moments”, and learn the three-second edge before “yes”. You also visit a room with your name on the door, a place that belongs to you.
You practise letting go of one percent, explore what happens when someone else takes your role, and learn rest that can sit beside guilt. You finish by shaping a small holding ritual that includes you.
By the end of the 13 days, many people notice a few moments each week that feel clearly different. A pause after helping. A softer yes. A small piece of rest that does not immediately get taken back.
We don’t list all 13 gifts in advance, so the companion can unfold with a little surprise.
But here are two tiny examples of what a day inside might feel like.
A Nervous System Gift: The Post-Help Pause
Right after you’ve helped someone, you take sixty seconds for your body.
Feet on the floor. One slower breath. A gentle check in: “How am I, right now?”
Not a big reset, just a small return, so giving does not erase you.
A Story Shift Gift: When Someone Else Takes Your Role
For a moment, you imagine the role being held by someone kind and capable, just for today.
You are not in charge. You are allowed to receive.
The story shifts from “If I don’t hold it, it falls” to “It can be held, and I can still be here.”
Each gift is designed to shift your evening by a few degrees, not to overhaul your life overnight.
Every gift in Holding Everything Together comes in the same gentle formats as our other companions:
Read it (in silence).
A short, clear text that feels like a hand on the shoulder, not a lecture.
Read it with piano music underneath.
The same words, held by a selected piano piece, for days when you want a little more calmness without needing more effort.
Listen to a calm voice.
The same gift read aloud, with no music, when your eyes and mind have had enough of screens.
Let voice and music hold you.
A soft voice with a subtle background music, for moments when you want to feel accompanied rather than instructed.
You can choose the softest way your system can say yes to that day.
Each gift takes about one to five minutes. No more.
Note: the solo piano piece is selected, performed and recorded by George.
Use it under the gifts, or play it on its own, whenever you want a quieter background.
Holding Everything Together is created for people who already have a lot on their plate.
One tiny gift per day.
You never open a pile of practices, only one small thing at a time.
Two versions for each gift.
A full version for days with a little room, and an even tinier version for stretched-thin days.
No streaks, no guilt.
There are no points, counters, or “you missed a day” messages. If you skip a day, the companion simply waits.
Clear edges.
It lasts 13 days. It ends. You can always repeat it, but there is no endless subscription and no pressure to “keep up”.
The aim is not to fix you or make your day perfect.
The aim is to offer you a few ways to hold what you hold, while still leaving room for you.
By the end of the 13 days, many people notice a shift they can feel in their body – a softer “yes”, a steadier breath after helping, and a small pocket of rest that doesn’t immediately get taken back.
When you start this companion, you receive:
Unlimited access to the 13-day Holding Everything Together companion in your Not a Course space.
Eight light nervous-system gifts and five magical story-shift gifts, arranged in a carefully tested pattern.
Four ways to receive each gift: text only, text with piano, voice only, and voice with a soft musical bed.
All future refinements we might quietly add to this companion.
Approx. 52 USD / 39 GBP / 42 CHF / 72 CAD / 78 AUD.
One-time payment. No subscription. Lifetime access.
You keep access for as long as you want, and you are free to return to these gifts whenever your days start to tighten again.
Holding Everything Together might be the right companion for you if:
You’re the one who carries the invisible work, the emotional weather, and the details that keep life running.
You find yourself saying “yes” on autopilot, then feeling stretched thin, then feeling guilty for needing rest.
You don’t want big changes right now, but you do have one to five minutes most days.
You want your caring to include you too, in a way that feels realistic, gentle, and sustainable.
If your stress mainly spills into evenings and bedtime, Quieter Evenings may meet you better.
If your days feel like pressure, urgency, and running hot, Almost Burned Out may be the right place to start.
If, as you read this, someone specific comes to mind, a partner, a parent, a sibling, a friend who is holding it together but running thin, you can also give this companion to them as a unique and private gift.
We’ll create a beautiful, personalised digital voucher with:
A warm invitation into their companion
simple, clear instructions where to go and how to start
a personal gift code that unlocks their companion with a price of 0
If you’d like, we can also add their name, your name, and either a short message from you or a warm standard dedication from us – so it feels unmistakably meant for them.
You can choose to give the voucher yourself or ask us to send it directly, with or without your name.
This is Holding Everyhting Together – a companion built from small, steady kindness, for the one who keeps holding it all.